Ericka with the Riverfront Park Bloomsday sculptures
Ericka's Regional photo
Watching our flooding river rage down at the park.
It's been too long and I have so much to update. Ericka has been doing okay but we have had some hiccups. The problems in school have continued, but it's more with the adults than the kids. She is doing fine with her school work but the social stuff is getting old. She has a girl in her class who she just does not get along with and the school counselor is trying to force them to be "friends". If Ericka tries to avoid this girl she will go tattle on Ericka saying that Ericka is being mean etc, and then Ericka finds herself in the counselor's office or principle's office having to explain herself. They are actually taking her out of class or taking away her recess which is unacceptable. She is trying to avoid conflict but keeps getting accused of committing "relational aggression", which is some stupid term they use for a kid who purposefully leaves another child out to cause "social and emotional pain of another". Whatever happened to the ability to decide that someone just doesn't deserve to be our friends? Ericka is not mean to this kid but will do everything to avoid having to play with her or do work with her because this girl is physically aggressive. This girl is cruel to Ericka, leaving bruises from kicking her and leaving a nasty gash to Ericka's side from pushing her down a hill (I even took pictures) but the counselor believes that everyone can learn to be friends through talking, something has not worked thus far. I absolutely do not agree with this lady's philosophy. She is trying so hard to make sure that noone's feelings get hurt but in the process she is actually causing more problems. I agree that Ericka should be civil and not be outright rude, but we have always taught her that if someone is mean to her that person doesn't deserve her friendship. We have told her that she should only put her energy into people who make her feel respected and do things to show they care. There are so many other things going on there that just tweek my nerves. I am just happy that she will not be returning to that school and neither will Nathan. We have decided to enroll them into the elementary school on the base. It is in a different school district which means we will have to drive them back and forth everday to the base and back but it will be so worth it. Troy and I went yesterday to "interview" the principle and counselor to get a feel of how they do things there. We told them about what has been going on at this other school and they were left just shaking their heads. This other district has 6th grade in elementary school which seems to me a better situation for Ericka. I don't think she is socially ready for middle school, especially now that her self confidence has been stripped. We hope to give her another year where she can build that back up again before having to move on. The base school is really nice. There are several programs that I have yet to see in any other elementary the kids have been too. There is track for all grades, which both kids want to do. They have a math and science club that Nate can't wait to be part of and they also have several other things that set them apart. Their testing scores are extremely high with reading being over 90 % passing. The way they do things there is so different. The principle took us on a tour of the school and it's really nice. The building is only 4 years old, they have a high school size gym, all the classerooms are large. The school library is huge and they have a nice courtyard where the kids can go and read. The name of the school is Michael Anderson Elementary (named after one of the astronauts killed in the Columbia shuttle accident) I guess he went to the original school when he was a boy so they honored him when the new school was built. The kids were all very quiet and well behaved and it was peaceful. All the adults and most of the students were dressed up in fairy tale costumes because they are learning about types of literature. They also invited both kids to come and spend an afternoon meeting the teachers and kids that they will be with next year. It will be nice since all the military kids know what it's like to be new. The kids are so happy with the idea of being on base they didn't care that they will be having to make new friends again. I hope that it works out and that Ericka will be better off not having to go to middle school quite yet. She went on a field trip to the middle school yesterday and said she was not ready to go there yet. I think she is also not wanting to leave her brother behind. They were both relieved when they found out that they will be in the same school for one more year.
Besides that stuff, skating season is over as far as meets go. She qualified for Nationals in two relays but we just can't afford to go this year. We are still going to practice until July, keeps the kids busy and they still want to go. She is already training hard for next year. She was bummed when she fell in her final race and didn't place in her division. Even though she fell she came in 5th out of 16 girls who started. She was first in all her Novice heats so it was really disappointing to her not to be on that podium for division but it's a lesson learned. She will be at the top of her division next year so that will help her.
The only other thing we have been dealing with is an eye problem. She developed a sty a about a month ago and the darn thing kept getting bigger despite treatment. We ended up having to take her in twice to have it cut and drained so she has been a little uncomfortable. To add to that she took a nasty fall at practice, and was hit in the chin with a skate so she looks like she has been in a few fights. She's a tough one though. She is excited for summer and all the fun stuff we have planned. We hope to go to Silverwood a few times, visit grandparents, go camping, and of course a trip to Gigi's in Cannon Beach. I think once she is out of that school she will be back to her old self in no time.